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08 Oct 2008

8 Oct, 2008  Aging, Baby Boomer Misc., Boomer Life Changes, My Home, Personal Facts

Most of us who call ourselves Baby Boomers have been through our share of changes.  I have passed through some of the most common ones, including the painful experience of losing a dear parent; raising two children to adulthood and realizing that the “mommy” role that I took so seriously and poured my life into is no longer what it was; watching my husband experience the physical challenges of diabetes and a heart attack; looking in the mirror and watching the the face that looks back at me change; supporting my husband as he went through the painful experience of realizing that after thirty years devoted to one company, surprise, he is dispensable, and now of at an age where there’s a tendency to go from one job to the other without settling, and what about retirement? Is it possible?

That brings us to our newest change, which could be looked at as a negative, or embraced as a new and exciting adventure, it’s up to us what we decide to do with it.  It may mean a move from our home of 25 years, the home where I raised my babies, and how can I be the “New Jersey Baby Boomer” if we leave NJ?  It may mean leaving behind friends of many years, and being further away from my now-grown babies than I want to be.  It may not happen at all!

I want to take you along on this personal journey and intertwine it with the usual New Jersey info on this blog, and let you get to know me a bit better.   More later this week!


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4 Responses

  1. Pat Montgomery

    2008 Oct 09 1

    We try to always see change as an exciting adventure–lessens the pain of change a little and gives an air of anticipation. Best wishes on your decision.

  2. Linda

    2008 Oct 10 2

    I understand having faced the decision to leave friends and family on LI, some 14 years ago.

    It is a major transition. I offer you the only words I feel (without knowing your situation) - consider carefully and take your time. Please feel free to private email me if you have any questions on transition.

    Linda

  3. Eileen Williams

    2008 Oct 10 3

    This may mean a big change and, as we grow older, these things seem even more difficult. I truly hope that you and everyone in your family can embrace whatever decision you need to make and it will draw you even closer together. Best of luck.

  4. Joyce Mason

    2008 Oct 11 4

    I hate moving more than anything in the world for all the same reasons, especially the support system I have developed in 35 years rooted in the Sacramento area. This is the longest I have lived in any community, and I have a hard time imagining the loss and disorientation of leaving. My husband would like to move some day, and when he even mentions it, I get palpitations!

    However, if it truly comes down to the wisest decision for our family at some point, I would navigate it with the same reminder my first spiritual teacher gave me about money, prosperity, and jobs. “If you manifested it once, you can manifest it again.” That goes for friends, support systems, and that sense of solid community. We are so lucky to live in a world where we do not have to lose our links to old friends, thanks to the Internet. While it’s not the same as a hug in person, our Baby Boomer Diva network proves how close we can become to people we haven’t even met in body, only in mind and spirit.

    Letting go is something we learn to perfect our entire lives. As we experience it, there’s often not just a safety net but a big trampoline down below giving us a big thrill as we bounce to a new set of opportunities we can’t access until we release our hold on the past. I’m envisioning only the best for you and can’t wait to hear about the process!


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